Gaslighting: A manipulative control tactic, psychologically misleading a person to doubt the truth and/or sanity.
Gaslighting comes from many people in various ways. Warrior or not, it is a hard barrier to break. My primary, not to mention most common type, gaslighters are parents and neurologist. I recognized the frequency of the behavior once I read more about it. Have you ever been told or coaxed to believe other than what you KNOW to be TRUE?
Doctor patient relationship often results with friction; my recent appointment definitely did…a furious warrior made an appearance.
Background: I’m currently “disabled” with student loans accumulated from trying to achieve eagerly goals I dreamt of. Much harder than you’d think when you do not have control of the misfiring neurons. I’ve been trying to work and EVERYTIME a seizure changed the direction. I asked my neurologist to help me with the relief.
Main types:
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Straight out lies are used to hide a secret.
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Reality manipulation is meant to minimize the dilemma currently on the table. Make one feel it’s in their head, second guess themselves. Invalidating one’s emotions takes place.
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Scapegoating shifts blame onto a person for other’s faults and wrongdoings.
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Coercion used for control by threatening and or force. That is used common for discipline from parents.
Having been a hard fighting warrior for a couple decades now, I recognize my symptoms and seizures. I’m not going to let the doctor manipulate me to think I’m not doing my part. I simply ask, “if you think I’m capable of gainful living, what field would you recommend?” Here is where inner warrior burst. Neurologist dancing around with no straight answer. I said I tried all in which he suggested (remote, part-time, freelance) suddenly he denied have given suggestions and that he can’t really decide if I’m totally disabled. Hard of hearing suddenly when I say give me another doctor. In the frustration I’m fully shaking and needed to swipe my VNS. I didn’t even feel like hearing the nonsense from a man that read the book vs. feel the pain. Don’t blame me for your incapability of figuring my best interest in getting a grip on it.
Not everyone may know the story of Pinocchio, he is a marionette puppet made by a carpenter, Geppeto, who wants a son. “I’m a real boy!” is what he wants others to see. So I have just have one thing to say to the wannabe Geppeto’s out there…”Im a real warrior!” 💜